unwelcome-ozian:

TRAUMA: 

• Is a state of high arousal that stems from the perception of severe threat (overwhelms a person’s capacity to cope) 

• Activates instinctive biologically based ‘survival’ responses of ‘fight’, ‘flight’ &/or ‘freeze’ • If not resolved (recovered from) it can lead to high sensitivity to seemingly minor ‘triggers’ 

• Disrupts interconnection (‘integration’) of key systems of the body and impairs health 

• The perception of severe threat (rather than the ‘size’ of the event/s) makes the experience traumatic 

• The biological basis of responses to being overwhelmed means the body reacts in the present even if the trauma is in the ‘past’ (‘your body keeps reacting as if you are still in imminent danger’; van der Kolk, 2011:xxi) 

• Because responses to trauma are innate and operate outside conscious awareness, recovery from trauma is not about ‘will power’, ‘mind over matter’ or trying to ‘forget the past’ 

• Responses to traumatised people can be inappropriate if the above points are not understood and can lead to re-traumatisation 

• Trauma of all kinds involves divisions or ‘splits’ in experience (‘dissociation’) 

• Common dissociative divisions fuelled by trauma are ‘disconnects’ between thoughts, feelings, sensation and behaviour

sunlitsuggestions:

healing is worth it, you deserve to get better, you are brave for even considering it, I am so proud of you for waking up this morning 

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constantly-content:

To all of my fellow humans who have experienced sexual abuse of any kind:

I hear you and I will not stop fighting for survivors. 

I may not understand exactly how you are feeling, but I have been fighting my own demons for months now, and I know how painful it is.

If you didn’t report, that is okay. The circumstances were not right for you, and I completely understand that.

If you did report, congrats for getting through a horrifically draining process. I hope that you got some justice from it. 

Your abuser wasn’t arrested? Nor was mine. That doesn’t mean our stories are not true.

Its okay to struggle with intimacy. You will find someone who accepts you for all that you are. 

You are going to get through this. Everything does NOT happen for a reason. You did not deserve the abuse, but you will grow through the healing process. Healing is not linear. If you have a good day, you deserve it. It doesn’t mean your trauma isn’t real. You are allowed happiness too. If you have a bad day, embrace your pain, but take care of yourself. You are a survivor. I believe you and I believe in you.

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balaclavabaklava2-deactivated20:

yes the leg hair thats showing at the bottom of my jeans is part of the look. mind your business.

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positivelypositivequotes:

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saphiquefille:

Times when rape is NOT a woman’s fault:

• she wore a short skirt/dress
• she wore a low cut shirt
• She accepted a drink from someone she knew
• She accepted a drink from someone she didn’t know
• She acted provacitively
• She initially flirted with the rapist
• She was a sex worker
• She had sex with the rapist in the past
• She was drunk
• She was under the influence of drugs
• She gave the rapist alcohol/drugs
• She was a drug dealer

Times when rape IS a woman’s fault

• she raped someone

It’s not that hard to understand.

amargedom:

“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”

— C.S. Lewis
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cwote:

• be thin
  
• cook for you
  
• have long hair
  
• wear makeup
  
• be feminine 
  
• be graceful
  
• have sex with you
  
• shave
  
• diet
  
• be fashionable
  
• wear pink
  
• love men
  
• listen to your bullshit
  

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